Thursday, September 18, 2014

Together

I remember a time when I was so against love and relationships, that I took the effort to not think about it daily. Yes, I was actually that revolted by the idea of falling in love, that I felt it was totally and utterly pointless to waste my brain space on that.

Forward to present times, and that's one of the forefront things on my mind all the time. I am a very affectionate person, and when I feel excessive amounts of affection towards somebody, I show it very obviously. I can't hide it. And even if I tried, I'd probably give it away some how (yes, I am sadly that person). If my soul clicks with another, I am instantly drawn to that person, and I am committed wholeheartedly for whatever journey we are to take together. This is true for all relationships. 

As we all know, I find love to be one of the most encapsulating, most expressive and deep-rooted emotions one could feel. And I strongly believe that whenever you feel that way for someone, you sit and do everything you possibly can to make sure you find a way together - to wherever it is you want to go.

It's that key word of being "together" when in love. And by that I mean, supporting one another, being on the same wavelength about various "big" things, and being connected on  an intense and personal level. It's also about going through the very hard, the really painful and sometimes unpleasant events and decisions that arise - in the most elegant and calm way possible. 

Obviously timing plays a massive part of any story. When timing is right, everything falls in to place. You have to trust and have strong faith that your story is unfolding as it is meant to, perhaps not at your speed, but it's exactly as it should be. Believe in that strongly, when you're on any path and feeling lost or impatient. It's when we get ahead of ourselves and worry about the crazy big future that isn't even in view, we lose sense of our story and our love for that story.

I think the worst thing we could do is forget why we fell in love in the first place. And I see that so often around me. Whether it's with couples who have been married for years, or couples who are just a year or two in to their relationship. It's quite saddening really, and I think that focus, that moment where you felt "this man/woman completes me" should always be remembered. It should be your "restore" function when things seem a little haphazard. 

Also, take risks. Lots and lots of risks. Risks are actually the only way you break barriers - not only the ones you've created within yourself, but also those that others have built. Barriers are built through years of fears, and fears, as we've established are just insecurities that arise when we don't trust ourselves and the flow of life. And well, fears are best dealt with love. See! It always comes back to love. :D

I feel that when you're in a relationship - you're in it for everything you've got. You love the truth about the person you're with. The entire truth, in a way that you'd never change who they are. Many times, people get in to situations like that in hopes of changing the person they are with, because they feel they have that power to do so. They feel that something is not quite right, and "tweaking" their personalities could help the relationship. That my dear, is not unconditionally loving someone. It is in fact, quite selfish.

Love that awakens the soul, is one that is rooted in the celebration of each other's freedom to be who they are, and to accept any changes that come along the way. You can't change another person - it's not how it works. You inspire each other to become better, surely, and you'll also learn new things from each other. But this is not forceful change. Whatever their quirks are, whatever their ways of doing certain things are, their imperfections is what makes them incredibly fascinating and unique. It's all very simple really - your soul guides you to what it needs, and when it finds it, you'll know instantly.

To me - worldly objects, material things, and money don't mean much. I can wear the same clothes for years without caring for fashion trends and so forth. But for me, love, transcendences everything. It's what my soul knows automatically. It only speaks in variations of love, and that's how I know it is for me. 

So, love with your entirety. There's no sense in holding back.

A song, after a long while!

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